There was one girl that we both used to work with that he seemed interested in and spent some time with but then nothing happened, even when she was single.
He never really talks about girls, well at least not with me and he's never had a girlfriend. And because of that I'm constantly asking myself if he's gay or not. We usually see each other 3 or 4 times a week and I developed really strong feelings for him pretty early on into our friendship. Me and my best mate spend loads of time together, going to the gym, playing Xbox and we go to the cinema quite a lot, just the two of us.
I'm not camp at all, so nobody suspects me of being gay and nobody knows that I am. We've been best mates for about 4 years now. Because there's every chance that they're just looking for a spoon and a nice long chat.I'm 21 years old and my best mate is 19. So next time there's some bro-bonding on the horizon, put away your thoughts of Jaegerbombs and video games. So it's an important sign that society is moving towards accepting and even celebrating the softer side of masculinity and male friendships - but we still find it very much the exception to the rule.
We probably wouldn't be as surprised if the same data was revealed about women or gay men - and we may not find it as patronizingly adorable. The fact that we're surprised and taken aback by platonic, male-on-male affections rests on very gendered assumptions. Which sounds like a really strong friendship indeed.īefore we get too carried away with this study, though, it's important to think about why it's news-worthy. And these friendships seem really meaningful - participants describe bromances as "someone who is literally there for you all the time” and “will always be there to back you up if you need it," according to researchers. Which means that there are a lot of close, fulfilling friendships happening. British men take their bromances seriously.Īnother exciting part of the study was that all of the participants said they had at least once close friend that they would count as a bromance. When I first came over here to study abroad, I was shocked that at clubs everybody danced in circles instead of bumping and grinding - except for the boys on the ruby team who basically had a writhing, hetero, back-slapping orgy any time there was music. Although, as an American living in England I'm not all that surprised. And, though we're dealing with a small sample size, the fact that 29 out of 30 said they were physical with their friends is definitely telling. Now here's the thing: the study only looked at 30 people, but let's hope that it holds true for bros and bromances everywhere because it's just so damn cute. Which, in scientific terms, translates to a massive "AWWWW!" In fact, there were references to just lying in bed and having a chat and cuddle with your bro. Interestingly, all but one of the participants said that they participated in “ non-sexual physical intimacy,” including kissing, cuddling, and spooning with their bros. And what followed can only be described as all the feels. The study surveyed male British undergraduates who identify as heterosexual about what it means to have a bromance. Which is good news because, according to a new study published in Sex Roles: A Journal of Research, it turns out these boys and bros may be a lot more affectionate that you think. We're finally moving past the stereotypical idea that boys will be boys and bros will be bros.